If you are planning a small and simple wedding, here’s what you need to know…
Everyone will try to make it into something more complicated!
There is truly no point trying to make others happy and fit their mold of how your wedding ought to be.
It’s your wedding. If you stick to your guns, you can make your wedding as simple as you would like it to be.
For my wedding, (which is literally happening in a month–AAaaah!) all I want is: Beach. Family. Friends… and lots of food!
Yet the simplicity of this idea was at first difficult to get across to our families. I even tried referring to the damn thing as a “beach party.”
But family members balked at this. They protested that we were making too light of a matter that is actually very serious.
Another point of deviation: I did not get an engagement ring.
As I confessed in my previous post, sure! I wouldn’t mind one. I am a girl after all. A silly girl who can still be suckered into hankering after shiny, expensive things even though I am highly educated and progressive and know that engagements rings are a scam.
But ultimately, I would rather save that money for things that have REAL value. Like traveling!
Still, I am amused how whenever I tell people I’m engaged, their eyes will unfailingly trail down to my left hand.
Try it sometime. Tell people you’re engaged. Then watch how their eyes quickly dart over to your left hand in search of the bling.
Who trained us to be like this??
Not that I have anything against people who follow conventions.
Having a wedding is, by itself, inherently conventional. I just wonder what people used to do for weddings before it became this highly commercialized and contrived affair.
Eventually, we managed (I think) to get the idea across to our family and friends that ours is going to be a very simple and low-key affair.
The idea is… show up at the beach and you’ll probably get fed!
Behind the scenes, we’ve been slowly and steadily organizing this wedding over the months.
Details are coming along quite smoothly. Check-lists are being checked. Little fuss has been made. And you know what? It’s been very satisfying to get things done on our own.
How have we been managing to keep our wedding so simple and minimal?
We are keeping a small guest list. Less than 40 people. Of course we are making a little room for wedding ‘crashers,’ so we are counting on 45 to show up at the most.
One thing that has helped has been the use of Pinterest.
You may laugh. Yes, I used to laugh at girls who I thought were just sublimating their fantasies and frustrations on Pinterest. But now I know better. Pinterest can be useful for mapping out your ideas visually.
Just keep in mind that it’s a tool. And stay away from falling into the envious, hate-your-life-it’s-not-as-good-as-Pinterest trap.
Dear readers, now you know!
This whole DIY wedding planning thing has been what’s keeping me so occupied these days.
That… and starting a new job!! One that I freaking love!!!
I’ve been staying happy, healthy and busy! And I hope you have too.
I will write more soon. Pinky promise